Use discernment to make the right changes

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“What would you like to change? Maybe you’d choose to change your appearance or have better-behaved children. Perhaps, you’re seeking one more step up the career ladder or maybe just to get onto a career ladder. Maybe you’d like to be more confident and witty or maybe less angry or depressed. Maybe you desire to be less controlled by your emotions. We all want to change in some way. Some of these changes are good, others not so good.”

The opening lines of this week’s article are from chapter 1 from the book “You Can Change,” by Tim Chester. He hits the nail right on the head, acknowledging that every person wants some kind of change in life. Have you ever wondered why it is that we frequently find ourselves and others saying, “it’s time for a change?” Generally, when talking about change, we are seeking to make ourselves, our surroundings or those around us better is in some way. Why is that? Because the common phrase you hear all “nobody is perfect” is so true, except for God, he is perfect.

What are some good changes some of us need to make? For some, it is our friends. We have people in our lives who are not helping us become more honest, respectful, joyful, hopeful, positive and moral people. For others, it is our media diet (e.g. movies, music, books, etc.)

We’ve spent hours filling our hearts and minds with garbage, and as they say “garbage in, garbage out.” So it makes sense that what goes into us (eyes and ears) will likely come out of us, be it good or bad.

Finally, some may need to cut back or eliminate smoking, alcohol, junk food, energy drinks and anything else that inhibits you from performing your role as a service member or citizen.

What about changes to avoid? You are unique and created to be just the man or woman you are. Seek not to change who you are because there is only one you. If married, seek not to be freed from your present spouse, so that you can marry another.

You may get to a point in your marriage when you think, “it’s time for a change,” remember your vows, “for richer or poorer…for better or worse…till death do us part.” Lest you think yourself doomed to a miserable life-long marriage, there are counselors (like Chaplains) eagerly standing by to assist in helping restore and preserve floundering marriages. If in the midst of a present enlistment, seek not to change your present status.

You may believe now that the military is not meant to be a lifetime career for you, but persevere through the difficulties, fulfill your commitment, and only seek the change to “civilian” when you’ve fulfilled your duties.